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« Reply #45 on: May 25, 2015, 04:55:54 PM »
Rich try using my New Technique (see my recent posts) since i think you and i are similar with the anxiety and tensing issue if i remember correctly.  I have had a lot of success and progress lately with my new technique.  It is really encouraging. 

As for your anus you should see a doc for sure if it does not improve.  The anus does need to be tight i am pretty sure, that is just how it works. Although i think it should relax quite a bit during or after masturbation.

I have never had hemmorhoids but i have had occasional itching in the past, probably like a mini-hemmorhoid that goes away quickly.  You definitely do not want to push too hard when pooping.  Take your time on the toilet, as long as you need, and let it slide out on its own.  And do not wipe too much, that is a sure way to irritate your anus.  More wiping is not going to solve the itching, it will only make it worse. and i am sure you know but they sell creams for hemmorhoids, i would try those

Also the squats would definitely not be good in my opinion.  I would stay away from those at least for a long while.  They will surely cause hemmorhoids and possibly worse.  Some gym exercises can be dangerous, you might be healthier in the long run just eating potato chips on your couch instead of hurting yourself while exercising.  All you really need to do to stay fit is some basic pushups or crunches or maybe some running or swimming to stay fit, nothing serious.

Stay hydrated, eat well, get good sleep, and take it easy, live stress free !

Hi nut, thanks for the advice and it's great that you are progressing well. I will check your thread out in more detail.

Right now I'm exercising every other day in the gym and at home. You probably are right not to do any lower body work, the thing is if this happened in 2006, I think any healing that might come naturally would have happened. I'm just trying everything I can, today I went to buy a foam roller and also picked up some probiotic yogurt in the hope it gives my digestive system a little boost.

I've been using the suppositories twice a day, and the cream as well and there seems to be improvement but I'm going to persist until I've used up all of the product before jumping to conclusions.

I used the foam roller today and carried out a lot of the exercises mentioned (upper back, hamstrings, thighs, glutes, lower back abductors) it hurt but I couldn't pin point any really tender areas, this might have something to do with not putting all of the weight on these areas, as I just started I was using a second leg or arm for balance at times. I definitely felt what I assume is a knot under my left buttock, so I just rolled back and forth over it gently. Overall though I felt very little everywhere, it was really quite unremarkable.

I'm training legs in the gym tomorrow, so I'll be doing these exercises : https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=NDv2nDtCn6M as well as the anterior pelvic tilt exercises Ralding posted. I've laid off the kegels for the time being, interestingly though I noticed that continually doing the contract, hold and release I was able to get an erection without any kind of physical stimulation, it took some time and there was some mental work involved and porn, but it worked, although quickly went flaccid without stimulation. I'm not masturbating at the moment, but from experience having done kegels before, it usually results in slightly more pleasurable orgasms that may last slightly longer, but overall has no effect on the numbing occurring in the whole genital area, nothing is moving as Ralding puts it.

I'm going to do leg press, and make a note of what the other machines I use are called, just for reference. I will be using practically no weight on these machines, having only started last week I was going 40kg on the leg press, which is nothing, the aim is to feel the movement and the whole area as much as possible. I'm also keenly aware now that I have some imbalance in the legs, and that my quads are much more developed than my glutes, I had no idea how weak my glutes were until recently. I think this was because I used to train very heavy and I've since learned that when muscles are overloaded the body can recruit other muscles to help aid the movement  which makes perfect sense. I didn't realise just how much the quads were involved in some of these leg exercises I was doing, and of course everything was compounded as I (like many) went from being in a sedentary sitting position at a desk job to being in the gym and suddenly overloading the quads and that whole general backside area which is suppressed the whole time we are sitting down. I didn't even warm up back then. Sorry I'm just rambling a little here, I'm just getting it out of my system I'm sure you know all about this.

One thing I'm really trying to focus on is sensation. I've noticed for a long time that I'm slightly more sensitive at night on the glands, so if I masturbate in the late evening it always seems to be generally better and more satisfying than during the day. I'm just feeling out the area at different times of the day, do you find any correlation between the time of day and gland sensitivity ?

There really is so much information to take in, I feel though physically going at this is the only way i'm going to stay motivated. The last few days having the time to focus on this has made me realise just how much it's holding me back in life. I've never even told my mum about this or any friends, at 29 and no girlfriend people do wonder whether there is something wrong with me

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« Reply #46 on: May 25, 2015, 05:25:49 PM »
Yeah i am just a couple years behind you, i will be 27 in a month.  I do not really care anymore what people might think, i mean it sucks obviously having never had a gf but honestly i would care more about finding someone compatible rather than just taking anyone to make myself look normal to others.  But in general i have given up on that social stuff

You do a lot of gym stuff.  I have done some gym at various times in the past, basic stuff nothing too extreme, i am a skinny guy.  To be honest if i was having hemmorhoid issues i would really steer clear of any physical activity for a while.  But that is just me, everyone knows their own body and limits.

The body is surprisingly resilient though.  It tries to maintain equilibrium and balance at all times.  That might also explain some of the muscle stuff you were talking about.  It is like when a person is blind, they will start to develop better hearing sense.  The body does whatever it needs to do to keep everything good. 

I have not been able to determine too many patterns pertaining to sensation.  Obviously it feels different in the morning versus night.  I think the big difference for me is how hydrated i am.  That makes a difference.  Usually in the morning i am more dehydrated. 

Anyways i just masturbated again using my new technique which is really pretty decent.  It is so satisfying when i get the feeling of finally being able to get the "nut" out if you know what i mean.  I do not just mean a normal ejaculation i mean something deeper that emerges from deep within somewhere in between the scrotum and penis (prostate?).  All i know is that i am so used to ejaculating but feeling so disappointed since i can nevef get the nut out.  But now it seems like i am more able to get it out in the past week. 


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« Reply #47 on: May 25, 2015, 06:45:44 PM »
Yeah i am just a couple years behind you, i will be 27 in a month.  I do not really care anymore what people might think, i mean it sucks obviously having never had a gf but honestly i would care more about finding someone compatible rather than just taking anyone to make myself look normal to others.  But in general i have given up on that social stuff

You do a lot of gym stuff.  I have done some gym at various times in the past, basic stuff nothing too extreme, i am a skinny guy.  To be honest if i was having hemmorhoid issues i would really steer clear of any physical activity for a while.  But that is just me, everyone knows their own body and limits.

The body is surprisingly resilient though.  It tries to maintain equilibrium and balance at all times.  That might also explain some of the muscle stuff you were talking about.  It is like when a person is blind, they will start to develop better hearing sense.  The body does whatever it needs to do to keep everything good. 

I have not been able to determine too many patterns pertaining to sensation.  Obviously it feels different in the morning versus night.  I think the big difference for me is how hydrated i am.  That makes a difference.  Usually in the morning i am more dehydrated. 

Anyways i just masturbated again using my new technique which is really pretty decent.  It is so satisfying when i get the feeling of finally being able to get the "nut" out if you know what i mean.  I do not just mean a normal ejaculation i mean something deeper that emerges from deep within somewhere in between the scrotum and penis (prostate?).  All i know is that i am so used to ejaculating but feeling so disappointed since i can nevef get the nut out.  But now it seems like i am more able to get it out in the past week.

I feel you bro, I really do, I really really do. I don't want to settle for some image of normality either, the thing is wanting to look normal is less important to me than feeling what I want to feel with a woman, and because I can't achieve what I want in that area I bypass it, but it hurts because I want to be with someone, I've never even been in love. I don't want this whole thing to be part of my psychology, it's a worry, and with everything else on top it acts like a barrier to relationships, a stone wall, like it just wasn't ever meant for me. Sometimes I wonder about karma and all the rest of it, there are much worse things in life though but boy it's a drag.

I should add also I have phimosis (tight foreskin) and a tight frenulum breve, nothing major, but it compounds the whole lack of feeling, lack of enjoyment thing further. I'm going to tackle this issue with stretching exercises, because my case really isn't that bad, I'm going to get some diprosone cream from the GP which apparently thins the skin and will help with the stretching exercises. I thought at one point I had damaged nerves in the head of the penis due to the constriction of the foreskin when erections were very hard, but I very much doubt this now.

The only reason I'm into working out is because it makes me more confident about my body, and also because I'm abstaining from sex at the moment the energy has to go somewhere. I have actually taken sertraline myself (you mentioned in your thread) and found it gave me a totally numb dick lol and I couldn't achieve orgasm on it at all, it's very good for socialising I've found. Maybe it's placebo but I can take just one pill on occasion and it can lift my mood totally and make me more social, psychiatrists dispute this and say you need a build up in your system but it's not what I've found, on the slim chance it's placebo well then let it be placebo lol

I think you're right about the sensation, and it has been mentioned on here that the body goes through it's various cyclical processes over a 24hr period, I just thought I'd ask. Thanks for bringing my attention back to the PC muscle, I'm going to make this a focus point
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« Reply #48 on: August 24, 2015, 05:38:39 PM »
The circles are the muscles running from the penis down the perineum to the anus and then behind. In me these muscles and the superficial ones just inside the anus and above were not working in synergy anymore. Now when I pinch the penis those muscles move like a wave (though that hardly worked at all when everything was tense). I still have tension often at the red circle which stops the wave dead. Also for me sometimes those muscles can’t move quickly with dexterity like they should sometimes they can now and that’s when everything feels its best. These are the muscles that the aneros helix and becoming mindful will fix.

Quoting Ralding's post despite the face he's not longer here. ...

I'd like to know if anyone has tried massaging the inside of the anus with either a thumb or aneros helix ? I went back to try this recently with no success..

He speaks on it as though it's easy to do but with anything up there all I am experiencing is at best discomfort.

I'd like to know HOW this bundle of muscles and nerves can be released as for me it's an area of total mystery.

I've noticed that my anus has become hypersensitive post-strenous activity.

Pretty much anything that taxes the CNS seems to increase sensitivity of the anus skin, which I initially passed of as itching, not thinking to raise this as a potential symptom with the urologist.

In line with this, the sensitivty of the penis feels at it's most numb and unresponsive.

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« Reply #49 on: August 24, 2015, 06:55:20 PM »
That quote sums it up perfectly

The area he's describing is the levator ani. Trigger points in that area directly correlate with the penis. The protocol I'm following has helped me gain control over this. I think retraining the motor system through functional movement exercises is the most effective way to do this, as I tried things such as stretching and massage and had no success. Now that I've regained control those are helpful, but before that doing that on its own was like trying to bend a metal spoon with my mind.

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« Reply #50 on: August 27, 2015, 09:56:03 AM »
That quote sums it up perfectly

The area he's describing is the levator ani. Trigger points in that area directly correlate with the penis. The protocol I'm following has helped me gain control over this. I think retraining the motor system through functional movement exercises is the most effective way to do this, as I tried things such as stretching and massage and had no success. Now that I've regained control those are helpful, but before that doing that on its own was like trying to bend a metal spoon with my mind.

Dante,

What I need to make clear is that despite these exercises being progressive, what I NEED right now is to take a more hands on approach, quite literally.

Ralding made progress from actively massaging these areas , he was applying a technique and feeling the results, and that's what I'm seeking guidance on.

I don't discredit what you are doing, I'm following that path ALSO, but I just as keenly interested in massaging and stretching if only to build a mental map of the inner workings in the pelvis.


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« Reply #51 on: August 27, 2015, 11:38:20 AM »
What I need to make clear is I took that approach for more than a year of hard work and dedication and it amounted to nothing

Everything Ralding wrote was completely spot on, but absolutely USELESS to someone in my position. I could hold a yoga pose all day everyday and self massage myself for hours day after day. The muscles will not relax if the tension is neurological in nature. I can't explain that any more cut and dry. I want no other human to experience the frustration I have had to deal with. Massage and stretching are excellent tools once you re-establish a bit of sensory motor control.

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« Reply #52 on: August 28, 2015, 12:45:53 PM »
Hi Richard. The somatics and the trauma release exercises should accomplish a freeing up of the pelvic muscles. For example the shaking induced during the TRE exercises should be effective in freeing up these muscles.

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« Reply #53 on: August 31, 2015, 01:04:55 PM »
Hi Richard. The somatics and the trauma release exercises should accomplish a freeing up of the pelvic muscles. For example the shaking induced during the TRE exercises should be effective in freeing up these muscles.

I'll post again once I've properly given it the time.

I hope the rest of you guys are going at these exercises every day, look forward to the feedback !

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« Reply #54 on: November 01, 2016, 02:02:20 PM »
Hello dear friends!
I just made this account for people without hope to get some hope again.I will be very short though. I have had numbness in my penis for ever since I remember. It put me into depression every day/or I had depression so I had numbness?Who knows. I attended meditation retreat this year.It was after I read this topic couple months ago,I gave what is here a little try but I didnt feel much results.Still numb.So I went to the meditation retreat totally desperate,about this. The main focus was observing the breathing of the body. Guys,many incredible things happend there beside this but I started to be aware after couple days of meditation of a lot of a tension in the body.Everything in the pelvic area was tensed,also my abdomens were in the constant state of spasm.So after that had been realized.I started to experiment with the breathing,after couple days I was able to realease the whole pelvic floor so much that  so strong sensitivity happend that a feeling like just before the orgasm was possible just through the breathing. Im not going to be very technical with this but basicaly I was breathing in through the diapraghm down and pushing everything to the earth/releasing all pelvic floor/,also when I breathed out I was releasing everything as much as it was possible. It needs a lot of mindfulness during everyday life to be aware of the tensions in that particullar area, so when you catch your self tensing you should relax in all activities so the body gets a new habit. Also dont masturbate until you start to feel some results and be patient, because trough masturbation old habits will come back,probably tension happend while masturbating so it will be very easy to get tensed again.You will be discovering and will find what works for you. Massage that was recommended here I think would help a lot too. So thank you very much for sharing in this topic and good luck to everybody! I will not come back here again most probably,just wanted to share this.In case someone has a serious question,you can write me an email I will try to help,but try first to discover through advice I wrote here and be patient.Everything is impermanent ,what now looks black can be white after sometime,just dont loose hope.

Dan

Edit: I'm sure this is not the only solution,but it is worth of trying. Also I want to mention I was taking Vitamin B12 in the form of MethylCobalamin but the results came in the meditation retreat.
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« Reply #55 on: November 02, 2016, 02:09:47 AM »
here are some of the concepts that are simillar to the breathing and releasing that I did. http://www.pelvicphysiotherapy.com/exercise-guide/

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« Reply #56 on: February 11, 2017, 03:00:30 AM »
Just to say I have completely debunked this pelvic floor theory as irrelevant to me personally. As per my recent thread in the general section, I was recently diagnosed with lyme disease. I'm irritated I wasted time with all this nonsense and I can't explain why Ralding recovered, I suspect what he had was never EA in the first place. The improvements in ejaculation and EA were (I believe) for the most part psychosomatic (a placebo affect). I believe I spent a lot of time nurturing the sexual experience which improved masturbation and because I was and still am so desperate to get better I linked these occasional improvements to long term recovery, which it wasn't. Reading back on my past contributions - as well as embarrassing - allow me to see how I've picked specific things to form a theory which in reality is just baseless. I think deep down that I reached this conclusion some years ago but allowed myself to be swayed as I was also annoyed that people here originally attacked me for not believing the pelvic floor theory, which gave me the impetus to keep trying. Now I know for sure it is not the cause of my EA. I don't blame anyone here because I know how desperate it becomes and the tendency to cling to hope.

Just to be clear I won't be wasting anymore of my time with this theory although I would urge those who are finding it useful to continue because I don't know everyone's symptomology and I would not want to rob anyone of a potential personal breakthrough. I do think generally changing one's belief systems, getting more active, engaging in regular stretching are all health boosters, as can be seen here from some guys reporting improvement in EA just from being more active and putting their mind onto other things like hobbies, etc. The trouble is this is not (speaking personally) going to ever solve my EA as my EA is lyme induced, so no I'm not going to settle for a slight improvement in EA, I want to get back what I lost so many years ago.

Healing is a journey and despite my lyme diagnosis being terrifying and panic inducing at the start, a lot of my research suggests that the damage done is reversible. I would also suggest anyone still netted in the pelvic floor theory to have blood tests and have a lyme test, because this is invaluable to see what is going on inside your body. Hormones play a big role as well and it's impossible to know without proper testing.

One thing I have come to really realise with these sort of self-help boards is that out of frustration and desperation we often place blind faith in others; anyone offering a solution to our problems. The key is to accept we are all different, with completely different constitutions and ecologies. It is impossible to know whether something will work unless you try it yourself but at the same time don't get bogged down in any one theory. What I will personally never do again is pretend I know the anwers out of frustration, and hold them up to other people to follow. I'm not angry at Ralding or others like Dante, but people for the love of god, investigate every avenue before committing to months or years of unproven protocols and training regimes. Get all your levels checked, and in the case of lyme, go to a state of the art lab that offers proper testing. There are millions of people that go undiagnosed every year because of some reservists in the health system who are in denial about it's true impact.

Peace everyone and I wish you all the best for recovery.