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asvidesh

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« Reply #30 on: October 29, 2013, 08:00:23 AM »
Thanks Ralding for giving us hope, though many, myself included, have not had a normal orgasm in decades.

I know that a few people have sought medical help regarding this, but have not got a solution. The thought strikes me - what if this new clue is disclosed to the docs, would they be in a better position to advise how to release / untense these nerves ?

PS : I too have this issue of legs falling asleep.

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« Reply #31 on: October 29, 2013, 10:11:06 AM »
I have been doing some of the exercises and yoga. Just started a new topic under General Discussion about it. Ralding, I'd welcome your input.

Anyone else who's been trying it, please also post about how you're doing.

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« Reply #32 on: December 13, 2013, 09:18:32 AM »
I doubt this.

I think the body has to solve the problem on its own.
I don't buy this "body got used to a tense state."

I think the solution has to be through chemicals that restore our
bodily equilibrium.

I was having grat orgasms and incredible libido on HCG, but after it
wears off, I ended up worse than I was previously.

I hope there might be something whose effects are constant.

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« Reply #33 on: January 18, 2014, 07:47:36 PM »
Hey Everyone,

I've been following this particular thread for a while now with excitement and bought my own tennis and softball and roller.  I've started doing exercises and stuff as well but I'm surprised nobody is responding with success stories.  There's tons of people on here, is everyone just waiting for someone else to try all of this and report back?  Perhaps could we get a "show of hands" how many people are following Raldings advice, how long they've been doing it, and any improvements, if any?

To start with I've been doing strengthening exercises for a few weeks but only just bought roller balls etc today.  I also haven't received my Aneros in the mail yet so haven't started on that treatment.  At this point I've had no improvement but wasn't really expecting any until I at least started on the balls and rollers.

Hope to hear from some of you out there.  I too believe this is a very good path to follow as I saw a pelvic floor specialist years ago and she told me that my entire system down there was out of whack and was shocked that I was simply not able to relax my sphincter muscles while doing keegles.  Anyways, long story short, I completely ignored her advice as I'm a very fit individual and continued on my way.  Reading this is making it allll come back to me and thinking this could be a huge part of my EA.

Hope to hear from you all on your progress.  And if you're just waiting to hear from us suck it up and spend $10 on some balls and get started!  : )

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« Reply #34 on: May 12, 2014, 02:43:21 PM »
Just started this stuff and so far so good

I've had anterior pelvic tilt forever always really really tight hamstrings and hips not opened

Can't believe after all this time it ends up being such a fixable thing

Doing the foam roller, yoga, and exercises to strengthen glutes and open up the hips

I had no idea how well this would work but I pretty much immediately felt like the energy channel opened up from my inner thighs all the way to my feet and then going all the way up to my brain, went from feeling nothing more than a sneeze and minor relief to getting back that warmth and waves going through my body. I also figured there was a good chance it was muscle tension because I would have great normal orgasms only during sleep every now and then and I could just never seem to replicate it conscious. I take it that those deep pelvic floor muscles were able to relax in that state and that's why I was able to get that normal satisfying climax.

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« Reply #35 on: May 27, 2014, 08:58:05 AM »
Hey!

I'm a woman in my 20´s who had PDOD (Anhedonia orgasm) the last 4 years. Been following this and some other sites for some years now, but never written a comment.

My PDOD stared with my GA and depression. I've tried Wellbutrin, it helped me with my general anhedonia, but not my orgasm. I feel my anxiety is getting much better and general feelings are coming back, so I stopped the medicine, all clean now.

I've always thought that my PDOD where due dopamin trouble in my brain. But now that I can feel laughter and other feelings dopamin gives me, it has to be something else? Cause my orgasm is like less than a sneeze.. I can feel good things right before the orgasm, but during, there is like nothing... just muscles contraction and other physical symptoms, never psychologic. I'm also "cumming" real quickly and my feets "falls asleep" very often during any normal position in generally.

I know that most of you in here are guys! But I hope and think that there must be possible for a womans muscle to tens up and make the same "mistake" as mans body? What do you think, Ralding?

My anxiety is making me really tense... my throat muscles are always tight when i get stressed out, and i get stressed out about literally nothing.. still I'm a student. So are my neck... so maybe my pelvic floor does the same? without me even notice? I've also been ha breast breather for the last 4 years... I'm now trying to breath with my stomach.

The problem is that I don't have a prostata.. It's really frustrating that there is so few females with this problem! Or in generally.. especially doctors' knowledge about this subject!

Thanks for giving hope anyways, Ralding.

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« Reply #36 on: May 29, 2014, 03:44:44 AM »
Hey!

I'm a woman in my 20´s who had PDOD (Anhedonia orgasm) the last 4 years. Been following this and some other sites for some years now, but never written a comment.

My PDOD stared with my GA and depression. I've tried Wellbutrin, it helped me with my general anhedonia, but not my orgasm. I feel my anxiety is getting much better and general feelings are coming back, so I stopped the medicine, all clean now.

I've always thought that my PDOD where due dopamin trouble in my brain. But now that I can feel laughter and other feelings dopamin gives me, it has to be something else? Cause my orgasm is like less than a sneeze.. I can feel good things right before the orgasm, but during, there is like nothing... just muscles contraction and other physical symptoms, never psychologic. I'm also "cumming" real quickly and my feets "falls asleep" very often during any normal position in generally.

I know that most of you in here are guys! But I hope and think that there must be possible for a womans muscle to tens up and make the same "mistake" as mans body? What do you think, Ralding?

My anxiety is making me really tense... my throat muscles are always tight when i get stressed out, and i get stressed out about literally nothing.. still I'm a student. So are my neck... so maybe my pelvic floor does the same? without me even notice? I've also been ha breast breather for the last 4 years... I'm now trying to breath with my stomach.

The problem is that I don't have a prostata.. It's really frustrating that there is so few females with this problem! Or in generally.. especially doctors' knowledge about this subject!

Thanks for giving hope anyways, Ralding.


Hi Stensrud,

I find your case very interesting. First, because you're a woman and no, you don't have a prostate, but you should also feel pleasant sensations before orgasm (every time your erogenous zones are stimulated), not only during orgasm. I think orgasm is just like the pleasant sensations of stimulation, but much more intense. I can also feel the muscle contractions, my heart racing faster, etc., but almost no sexual pleasure.

This is also interesting because I'm a man, and erogenous zones on men are usually narrowed down to the genital area, but I could feel pleasure on other areas of my body (nipples, for instance) when I was OK 6 years ago. Women usually have erogenous zones spread over their bodies. I also think if pudental nerve or pelvic floor were the causes for our problem, why would that nerve affect what we can feel on our nipples, necks, etc?

Just like you, I can laugh and feel mental pleasure with other activities which supposedly dopamine is responsible for. So I also wonder whether it is something else but dopamine, or at least not only related to dopamine.

If your feet go numb (I guess that's what you mean by "fall asleep") very often, I would suggest you go visit your doctor and tell them about it. It may or may not be related to the sexual problem, but I think it is important to issue that problem of numb limbs itself, and the anxiety too.

I think also you're going in the right direction, trying to learn how to breathe better and finding ways to relax. Improving general health is always positive, whether we can find a solution to this problem or not. Just don't despair, and search for ways to get better generally (maybe exercising, maybe finding activities that make you happy...).


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« Reply #37 on: May 29, 2014, 07:01:55 PM »
Dante55 - how quickly did you begin to feel improvement? How close to "normal" are you now? (Normal being a 10 on a 1-10 scale?)

And to the woman who posted, I recall a different woman who posted here years ago. I believe she found that reverse kegels helped her.

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« Reply #38 on: May 30, 2014, 02:21:02 PM »
I only started this 15 days ago

I have been incredibly diligent with this stuff

I am not back to normal yet but I know for an absolute fact this is what the issue is

I have been incredibly tight for as long as I can remember and had an anterior pelvic tilt

Trigger points, posture, correct breathing, pelvic floor relaxation are all the key

The more I am able to release the pelvic floor during stimulation the stronger the orgasm more pleasurable build up as well

My problem was a mix between numb zero sensation ejaculations to sometimes painful ejaculations

I think actually I just came to realize over time that ejaculation would hurt if I maintained stimulation during orgasm so I just got into the habit of going still inside a girl or stopping manual stimulation and those ejaculations were all without pleasure, if I keep thrusting as orgasm approaches like you're meant to it is PAINFUL

And I'm not saying the tip of my penis gets sensitive after orgasm like a lot of normal guys, I'm saying the pain prevented orgasm from taking place


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« Reply #39 on: May 30, 2014, 03:58:10 PM »
I want to try this but am unsure where to start. Could someone give a detailed routine of what exercises to do on a daily basis and for how long?

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« Reply #40 on: May 30, 2014, 04:28:08 PM »
I just tried masturbating lying down with my knees up and breathing into my stomach. In the first few minutes I felt some deep pressure at the base of my penis, almost behind it inside my body. For the first time it felt like my penis was actually attached to my body. Also, when I ejaculated the contractions continued for 30 seconds whereas they're usually almost non-existent. No difference in pleasure though, which was nil. However, I wonder if an extremely tense pelvic floor is blocking the pleasure signals from being transmitted.

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« Reply #41 on: May 30, 2014, 08:28:49 PM »
Go through everything ralding posted

Figure out something that you can sustain on a daily basis

Foam roll everyday, it sucks, it hurts, but it feels good after, you will need a ball for certain muscles

Do yoga 2-3 times a week and bust ass trying to get better and better at it instead of showing up and going through the motions, this sucks too but it gets easier

Posture correction exercises to strengthen certain muscles are needed just as much as the myofascial release from rolling and the stretching from yoga, look up Neanderthal no more part 4, this program is really good

Get into a habit of syncing up your breathing with your pelvic floor

As you breathe in you want to be relaxing floor(a reverse kegel basically)

Take 15 minutes a day and do constructive rest pose


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« Reply #43 on: May 23, 2015, 03:25:50 PM »
Hi everyone,

Just want to say I've been away for a good while. I intended to really have a go at solving this problem in February but external pressures took their toll, and I went back to routinely masturbating which got me into a bit of a slump mentally. The reason I abstain from sex is because it gives me the focus to really work on the EA compared to when I masturbate routinely, I tend to put these things off. It's taken quite a bit of courage to focus on this again as I don't really want to spend time playing around with my anus and that general area, but it seems I have no option if I want to get better.

I can say I have kept up with the psoas stretching, I feel though the real problem area is around the anus and such like. For years I've been having problems sometimes after going to the toilet, where I feel like I need to wipe and wipe to get relief, it's like an irritating itch and there is sometimes a little bleeding from excessive wiping, and sometimes not. I've researched and think it may be hemorrhoids as the symptoms I have coincide with those I find on the net. I'm going to take some over the counter Anusol before visting the GP to see if it takes care of it. I'm hoping I don't have to go to the doctor for this because it's embarrassing.

Looking at the overall picture, hemorrhoids apparently can be caused from a lot of pressure in the lower regions from hard physical activity and the like, this correlates somewhat with the EA, and I think heavy squatting in the gym which I was doing a lot of during the time EA first set in, really contributed to the development of all this. I'm sure of it.

For the first time, following Raldings instruction I used a finger and some lube to feel about down there and everything is extremely tight. The ring of my anus was gripping my finger the whole time, it felt very uncomfortable, the hemorrhoids (if this is what they are) may be causing this somewhat, so until I start treatment for that I'm unable to progress.

Does anyone else have any follow up to this ? I will post again once I really start progressing, and nothing will get in the way of that this time

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« Reply #44 on: May 25, 2015, 01:47:09 PM »
Rich try using my New Technique (see my recent posts) since i think you and i are similar with the anxiety and tensing issue if i remember correctly.  I have had a lot of success and progress lately with my new technique.  It is really encouraging. 

As for your anus you should see a doc for sure if it does not improve.  The anus does need to be tight i am pretty sure, that is just how it works. Although i think it should relax quite a bit during or after masturbation.

I have never had hemmorhoids but i have had occasional itching in the past, probably like a mini-hemmorhoid that goes away quickly.  You definitely do not want to push too hard when pooping.  Take your time on the toilet, as long as you need, and let it slide out on its own.  And do not wipe too much, that is a sure way to irritate your anus.  More wiping is not going to solve the itching, it will only make it worse. and i am sure you know but they sell creams for hemmorhoids, i would try those

Also the squats would definitely not be good in my opinion.  I would stay away from those at least for a long while.  They will surely cause hemmorhoids and possibly worse.  Some gym exercises can be dangerous, you might be healthier in the long run just eating potato chips on your couch instead of hurting yourself while exercising.  All you really need to do to stay fit is some basic pushups or crunches or maybe some running or swimming to stay fit, nothing serious.

Stay hydrated, eat well, get good sleep, and take it easy, live stress free ! 
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