Author Topic: Interview in uruguayan tv with a sexologist/therapist about the topic  (Read 2589 times)

gdop

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She claims to have solved almost 80% of the cases.
I was in her clinic, didn't work for me tough, altough I had to stop going there because of health problems.
Sorry in spanish.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=HAKDaFWwIeI

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Re: Interview in uruguayan tv with a sexologist/therapist about the topic
« Reply #1 on: October 06, 2017, 02:55:06 PM »
She says most cases have a psychological reason, and she is mostly speaking about specific causes, such as delayed ejaculation, shyness, poor self confidence, personality issues... Obviously it's her field and she might have treated couples with those problems successfully. But most cases doesn't mean everyone's case.

She also says that there is almost no reseach on anorgasmia in men. That is sadly true. Anorgasmia isn't deadly and therefore is not a priority to solve. Like you said to me a few years ago, research requires money and funding usually goes to other issues which are more urgent to solve... Or just return money faster.

A few years ago, after visiting different doctors who apparently found nothing wrong in my medical tests, almost everyone said that I should search for a psychological solution. I went to a renowned sexologist in my city, knowing that I would probably just throw away some of my money. While I went to the sessions, she was searching for trauma, insecurities, any psychological reason which could have caused my insensitivity.

I opened the story of my life to her. I wanted to find something wrong in my mind and solve it... Mostly because everyone was so confident that the problem was in my mind. But it wasn't. Maybe now it is, after 10 years not feeling sexual pleasure... I'm not losing my hopes to find a solution, but still... I realise my thinking processes have changed. Now I know I will masturbate or make love and feel almost nothing physically... So my frequency of sex has diminished a lot, even though I get excited and have a high amount of desire. Everyone around me is gaining experience while I'm... On pause.

What I've experienced with doctors is that they either are not interested, or they don't know what to do. This is maybe a problem which should be treated by different specialists at the same time. I can tell there are different issues which could cause this, just by reading other people's stories. That would mean the solution may also be personal for each case.

I'm amazed this isn't investigated. Some doctors must suffer it and do nothing. Some rich people must suffer it and their money can't find doctors who are interested in the subject. The only thing I can think of, is this problem being a few orders of magnitude more difficult than the current knowledge we have about our biology.


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Re: Interview in uruguayan tv with a sexologist/therapist about the topic
« Reply #2 on: October 12, 2017, 08:23:08 AM »
>She says most cases have a psychological reason, and she is mostly speaking about specific causes, such as delayed ejaculation, shyness, poor
> self confidence, personality issues... Obviously it's her field and she might have treated couples with those problems successfully. But most
> cases doesn't mean everyone's case.

Yes, most of the causes or effects that she speaks about doesn't even match with mine,

>  I realise my thinking processes have changed. Now I know I will masturbate or make love and feel almost nothing physically... So my
> frequency of sex has diminished a lot, even though I get excited and have a high amount of desire. Everyone around me is gaining
> experience while I'm... On pause.

More or less the same here.

>  This is maybe a problem which should be treated by different specialists at the same time

Well, her clinic do have an interdisciplinary team, so you are treated with different doctors of different specialties. Didn't help me either... went fpor a year or so, anyway, as I said before, I had to stop going because of other problems.


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Re: Interview in uruguayan tv with a sexologist/therapist about the topic
« Reply #3 on: October 07, 2018, 11:45:03 AM »
She says most cases have a psychological reason, and she is mostly speaking about specific causes, such as delayed ejaculation, shyness, poor self confidence, personality issues... Obviously it's her field and she might have treated couples with those problems successfully. But most cases doesn't mean everyone's case.

She also says that there is almost no reseach on anorgasmia in men. That is sadly true. Anorgasmia isn't deadly and therefore is not a priority to solve. Like you said to me a few years ago, research requires money and funding usually goes to other issues which are more urgent to solve... Or just return money faster.

A few years ago, after visiting different doctors who apparently found nothing wrong in my medical tests, almost everyone said that I should search for a psychological solution. I went to a renowned sexologist in my city, knowing that I would probably just throw away some of my money. While I went to the sessions, she was searching for trauma, insecurities, any psychological reason which could have caused my insensitivity.

I opened the story of my life to her. I wanted to find something wrong in my mind and solve it... Mostly because everyone was so confident that the problem was in my mind. But it wasn't. Maybe now it is, after 10 years not feeling sexual pleasure... I'm not losing my hopes to find a solution, but still... I realise my thinking processes have changed. Now I know I will masturbate or make love and feel almost nothing physically... So my frequency of sex has diminished a lot, even though I get excited and have a high amount of desire. Everyone around me is gaining experience while I'm... On pause.

What I've experienced with doctors is that they either are not interested, or they don't know what to do. This is maybe a problem which should be treated by different specialists at the same time. I can tell there are different issues which could cause this, just by reading other people's stories. That would mean the solution may also be personal for each case.

I'm amazed this isn't investigated. Some doctors must suffer it and do nothing. Some rich people must suffer it and their money can't find doctors who are interested in the subject. The only thing I can think of, is this problem being a few orders of magnitude more difficult than the current knowledge we have about our biology.
Sensation. I had exactly the same experience. finally managed to see an expert at  London hospital who said there would probably be no cure as it was probably psychological but he was interested enough to see me privately in Harley street. he was a sincere guy but at the ned of many hundreds of pounds treatment the only thing I got from it was that he advised me to relax during sex and focus on the sensation. it isn't researched because we men are too insecure to get it out in the open. would you on tv to  speak about it? I wouldn't. so it gets no publicity and therefore remains in the shadows and us blokes are easy prey while we search desperately for a fix. it breaks my heart

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Re: Interview in uruguayan tv with a sexologist/therapist about the topic
« Reply #4 on: October 08, 2018, 01:43:08 PM »
Some years ago, I started a blog on blogger (in Spanish - https://insensiblealplacer.blogspot.com), explaining my condition. My idea was to try and spread the word, in hopes somebody in the medical community would be interested on investigating, or at least contact me to share information. But I don't have the skills or time to make the blog more popular, so it is mostly sitting there still on the web. Maybe some day I'll be able to continue.

A few people contacted me through the blog and other means. Most of them were people like me, women and men who couldn't feel pleasure or had related problems. But curiously, one of them was a man studying Medicine at the University. He said he didn't have orgasms, but had found other interests in life and dismissed this problem. I couldn't believe he didn't care about it. I asked him one thing: if he could please spread the word on our condition at the university or once he started creating a network of contacts in the medical community. I have never heard of him again.

Some other people told me about their experiences with different doctors, but unfortunately we were all disoriented and just coping with the problems the best way possible.

The medical community is aware of this condition, but they are more interested on investigating other areas. I hope medicine will find more answers in the future, but nowadays they continue recommending the same solutions for almost everyone (relax, see a psychologist, focus on the sensation)...

I'm not saying those solutions never work; in fact, there are people who benefit from them, because in their case it's really psychological. I think every case is different and I've travelled the psychologist journey with no results, except getting even more convinced that my case has to be something physical. I can't focus con the sensation, because there is none. I have no fears or insecurities about sex. Everything seems to work well, except I don't feel the physical pleasure.

After a few years I found a neurologist who at least showed some interest, even if his field was different (sleep study). He prescribed me bupropion and my mind is better since then. I don't have as much daytime sleepiness as before (which was another reason for the prescription). He also thought bupropion could help me with my anorgasmia. It didn't, but every medicine I've tried for this condition ramps up my desire. He said I could try cabergoline but he couldn't prescribe it to me... I had to get some pills on Internet. It augmented my desire even more, but killed my sex drive. He finally said he couldn't help me more, because it wasn't his field, but recommended me to see an andrologist.

And this is where I am now. I haven't seen an andrologist yet, because I read their descriptions on medical forums and none of them seem to speak about anhedonia. Lots of penis enlargements, treatments for premature ejaculation and impotence, and not much more is what I can find.

I'm fed up with this... I'm not seeing more doctors for now. I'm just reading online and waiting for something new to show up.