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I'm Cured! / Re: Dostinex/cabergoine update
« Last post by bongo on October 27, 2017, 03:22:43 AM »
Hi I can't remember if I've tried this (probably) I can rememeber arimidex and spinalactone and many others people have sworn help. which country are you in and what mg tablets do you take half of. Where do you buy, what price, and how long taking them before any results ? Thanks
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Contributing Factors - Physical / Re: Where I'm at right now as of 04.10.17
« Last post by RocketTN3 on October 22, 2017, 02:32:45 AM »
Your symptoms are much like mine, even the change of consistency of semen. Clearly, whatever was working, stopped working, not completely, but enough to have a major impact on sex and climax. My biggest anxiety is approaching a specialist about this with mostly undefined symptoms. Specialists react well to the word 'pain', I've noticed, but anything that can't be narrowed down or described away easily leaves them puzzled. Anyway, I've promised myself I'm going to make headway with this in the next few weeks. My workload is becoming a bit lighter now, so more time at the weekends and in the evening. Will post again when I have something of value to share.
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I'm Cured! / Re: Dostinex/cabergoine update
« Last post by searchingforcure11 on October 16, 2017, 06:58:28 PM »
Wow man the benedryl would make me too tired.  I take 15 mg Adderall but if I took bendryl with it I would get sleepy and not be in the mood for it.  Do you edge as well?  I love edging.  Hmm Cabergoline.  Might have to see how that works.  I am still getting enjoyable orgasms and amazing build up.  I cant complain.  I think a big key to pleasurable orgasm is definitely not being so tense.  I think it could be from always edging I might have a habit of holding it in.  But sometimes I will have a not so good one and I think its because the muscles at orgasm tense and don't freely let loose.   Sex is better because you are able to relax that more so since you are not stimulating yourself. 
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I'm Cured! / Re: Dostinex/cabergoine update
« Last post by Jabele on October 16, 2017, 05:58:57 PM »
Great news! How do you relax your pelvic floor before orgasm? I'm wondering if this is what I need to do because I get contractions that I don't feel and think I tense up too soon. Is there a position that helps force you to relax?
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I'm Cured! / Dostinex/cabergoine update
« Last post by needhelpage31 on October 15, 2017, 08:29:21 PM »
It's been a few months since my last post. I'm pleased to report that cabergoline is definitely helping me. I've even had a few orgasms at 8/10 on the scale of what used to be "normal" for me before I had EA.

I take half of a cabergoline twice/week.

I often add in 7.5 mg of adderall at about 5pm, and have a couple of diphenhydramine (benadryl). Together, these two things help to delay ejaculation.

The other key for me is to relax my pelvic floor completely before ejaculation/orgasm. I've learned over the past couple of years that I have to stop stimulation from moving (friction) and sort of wait for the orgasm to happen on its own. It's almost as if I have give my body and brain a few extra moments to release the feel good chemicals. Otherwise, I can have an ejaculation with plenty of contractions, but little or no pleasure.

I only restarted cabergoline a few months ago. It's the only thing I changed, and it clearly makes a positive difference for me. (Too much of it, and I don't get very hard. That's why I take less.)

Figured I'd post this in case it might help anyone else. I'm happier and having more pleasure with my wife than I have in a long, long time.
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Contributing Factors - Physical / Re: Where I'm at right now as of 04.10.17
« Last post by Carpentrov on October 14, 2017, 06:36:33 AM »
Hope all is well and that you get a break through.  I am 100% positive that my issue is physical and that the best course is through physical therapy as wel.  I used to have drool worthy orgasims, multiples, screaming pleasure orgasims.  I believe my cause was a bit of "flying too close to the sun".  I used to find if I deeply inhaled while I orgasimed and squeezed my pelvic muscles it took the orgasim to another stratosphere of pleasure.  Well one day I was doing it and I get something either tear, or spasm, or knot up in my pelvis.  My orgasims have never been the same.  My penis now feels "fundamentally different.  Not in a good way.  I also notice much more pain while defecating from time to time, a more prescience of hemmoroids.  My cum seems to have turned a yellower shade and is much "chunkier". Really weird symptoms I know.  But it all goes back to that day.  There is no doubt in my mind my issue is muscular related that has messed with the nerves and stuff down there.

Been over two years but u know what?  Life goes on.  I have a very loving wife who understands and helps.  It could always be worse.  Work has really stopped me from getting proper treatment.  Really going to focus on it this winter though as I will have time


Thanks!
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>She says most cases have a psychological reason, and she is mostly speaking about specific causes, such as delayed ejaculation, shyness, poor
> self confidence, personality issues... Obviously it's her field and she might have treated couples with those problems successfully. But most
> cases doesn't mean everyone's case.

Yes, most of the causes or effects that she speaks about doesn't even match with mine,

>  I realise my thinking processes have changed. Now I know I will masturbate or make love and feel almost nothing physically... So my
> frequency of sex has diminished a lot, even though I get excited and have a high amount of desire. Everyone around me is gaining
> experience while I'm... On pause.

More or less the same here.

>  This is maybe a problem which should be treated by different specialists at the same time

Well, her clinic do have an interdisciplinary team, so you are treated with different doctors of different specialties. Didn't help me either... went fpor a year or so, anyway, as I said before, I had to stop going because of other problems.

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I'm Cured! / Re: Only have enjoyable Os under extreme pressure
« Last post by Jabele on October 08, 2017, 10:48:47 AM »
Fireman, thank you for your thoughts. I can definitely relate to people having their unique turn ons and have my own. However, this feels different. It feels like the stress does something to me physically that like corrects my anhedonia and weak orgasms. Idk if it's the epinephrine or some other hormone but it helps me reach a higher peak and then actually experience the feeling. Again, these are very few and far between but they are the only good ones i can remember.

I do agree thst it might be a pelvic thing. I have always masterbated prone by humping the floor or by tightening my legs together. I can get a tiny 'blip' from this but typically, it wasn't worth the effort (1 or 2/10). I masterbated this way only my whole life.

When I introduced a vibrator (again I'm a girl) 10 years ago, it continues to be a total fail. I get the build up and the feeling like I'm gonna have an O, and then my pelvic floor contracts a few times AND I FEEL NOTHING. 0 out of 10. I don't understand why I can feel the tiniest bit of something when I do dry humping on floor or legs crossed and complete anhedonia with the vibe. :-\ ??? I can only imagine it is a pelvic floor issue. I've seen pelvic Pts tho who tell me I'm tight down there, do a few sessions and say I'm better but no sexual change. Unless it's what I do with my PF during masterbation thst is the issue and that I masterbated in a non traditional fashion for all those yrs


Anyway that's my story. If folks have additional insights  I would be super grateful
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I'm Cured! / Re: Only have enjoyable Os under extreme pressure
« Last post by fireman on October 07, 2017, 09:27:02 AM »
I would say that its a personal thing to you. we all have our own turn ons - I'm not going to say what mine are ;-) but if we are being honest we all have them. and they are what make us individuals and unique. in fact that's one of the things  I enjoy most about a close sexual relationship; finding out what turns my partner on the most and using and enjoying that for maximum mutual pleasure. indeed one partner used to love experimenting sexually in risky locations - perhaps similar to your stress level kind of thing. so I would suggest you simply accept that stressful situations are what float your particular boat, and using that fact for your own benefit. perhaps find someone who enjoys it as much as you do, and who knows,  they might turn out to be ''the one''. enjoy, and have fun.
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She says most cases have a psychological reason, and she is mostly speaking about specific causes, such as delayed ejaculation, shyness, poor self confidence, personality issues... Obviously it's her field and she might have treated couples with those problems successfully. But most cases doesn't mean everyone's case.

She also says that there is almost no reseach on anorgasmia in men. That is sadly true. Anorgasmia isn't deadly and therefore is not a priority to solve. Like you said to me a few years ago, research requires money and funding usually goes to other issues which are more urgent to solve... Or just return money faster.

A few years ago, after visiting different doctors who apparently found nothing wrong in my medical tests, almost everyone said that I should search for a psychological solution. I went to a renowned sexologist in my city, knowing that I would probably just throw away some of my money. While I went to the sessions, she was searching for trauma, insecurities, any psychological reason which could have caused my insensitivity.

I opened the story of my life to her. I wanted to find something wrong in my mind and solve it... Mostly because everyone was so confident that the problem was in my mind. But it wasn't. Maybe now it is, after 10 years not feeling sexual pleasure... I'm not losing my hopes to find a solution, but still... I realise my thinking processes have changed. Now I know I will masturbate or make love and feel almost nothing physically... So my frequency of sex has diminished a lot, even though I get excited and have a high amount of desire. Everyone around me is gaining experience while I'm... On pause.

What I've experienced with doctors is that they either are not interested, or they don't know what to do. This is maybe a problem which should be treated by different specialists at the same time. I can tell there are different issues which could cause this, just by reading other people's stories. That would mean the solution may also be personal for each case.

I'm amazed this isn't investigated. Some doctors must suffer it and do nothing. Some rich people must suffer it and their money can't find doctors who are interested in the subject. The only thing I can think of, is this problem being a few orders of magnitude more difficult than the current knowledge we have about our biology.

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